Student Lu Beini from the Human Resource Management program at the School of Business Administration comes from Zhejiang Province. Before entering university, she was her parents’ closely protected “little follower.” Four years ago, she chose to travel a long distance to study at Xi’an Eurasia University. From her initial shyness upon enrollment, to her transformation in life and personal growth, and finally to academic achievements, Beini completed a full journey of development here. Seeing their daughter’s transformation and gains, her father, Lu Xianji, wrote this reflection. This is not only a parent’s personal account, but also a reflection on what “good education” truly means.
Two years ago, when my daughter received her admission letter from Xi’an Eurasia University, to be honest, my “mental balance” was constantly wavering.
We live far from Xi’an, and the thought of her living alone in the north filled my mind with practical worries: Would the heating in winter be too dry? Would she adapt to the local food? But beyond these concerns, I was more worried about whether she would truly learn something meaningful in university, rather than simply obtaining a diploma.
The Moment of Trust
When we visited the university, we entered the campus and saw the phrase “Harmony in Diversity” near the clock tower. At that moment, I felt the university had a distinctive character. Society today does not need “bookworms,” nor “pure tools.” I hoped my daughter could grow in an inclusive environment where her edges would become light rather than be flattened.
On the day she moved into campus, she walked in with a large backpack, waved at me, and said, “Dad, you can go back now.” At that moment, my eyes truly became wet. It was the first time I realized she was really stepping out on her own.
From “Little Follower” to Taking Responsibility
During her first summer vacation, she no longer stayed at home waiting for meals. Instead, she went out to find a part-time job. When she came home covered in sweat and excitedly told me how she interacted with people and earned her first income, I suddenly felt my little girl had grown up.
Later, she used her earnings to buy a new mobile phone for her mother. That day, her mother held the phone silently for a long time. What touched us was not the phone itself, but the care and responsibility behind it.
Lu Beini’s Parents Receiving Their Child’s Gift of Care
The most obvious change, however, was her way of thinking and her ability to communicate and plan.
She used to be our “little follower,” but now she takes initiative in many things, from handling household matters to planning family trips, with clear thinking. She often told me that from her first year she participated in real projects and frequently worked with companies, which taught her to think and solve problems like an adult.
Seeing her calmness and confidence, I felt that sending her to a university where she could engage with real society during her studies was the right decision.
Internship at Geely Automotive Research Institute
Beyond personal growth, she also gave us academic surprises—recently she received an offer for a project management internship at Geely Automotive Research Institute (Ningbo) Co., Ltd.
During the winter break, I saw her locking herself in her room, repeatedly refining her CV and attending online meetings with teachers. I felt conflicted: both heartbroken for her effort and reassured by her clarity. I checked and found that many of her competitors were top students from leading domestic and international universities. As a parent, I was genuinely worried for her.
Later, she successfully obtained the internship. When she called me, she excitedly told me that the university’s “Career Empowerment Studio” teachers had given her great encouragement and support. Those teachers were like teammates, helping her review strengths, structure logic, and move step by step toward the goal.
At that moment, I realized: this child no longer needs us to shield her from wind and rain.
Every teacher she met at Eurasia gave her the education she needed most at that stage of life, guiding her through the most confused and critical period of her twenties, helping her find direction and become who she wanted to be. As a parent, this brings me great peace of mind.
You Don’t Need to Be “Excellent,” Just Keep Growing
I once believed university education was about mastering knowledge and obtaining a diploma, and that success meant a stable job and high income.
But seeing my daughter’s transformation, I truly understood that good university education is about “educating the person,” not merely “training skills”—it is not about pouring knowledge into students, but about building platforms and guidance so they can learn independence, responsibility, and passion in a diverse environment.
I no longer insist she achieve socially defined “success.” Instead, I hope she becomes a complete human being—responsible in action, warm in life, independent in thought, and purposeful in behavior.
When a person has the inner strength to face life calmly and knows how to be grateful and give back, she has already succeeded in her own life. This, in my view, is the highest meaning of university education.
